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Divorce and Remarriage

 Hello and welcome to my final blog post! This semester has flown by and it makes me sad that this class is ending. I have learned so much and gained so many insights as well as hope and excitement for my future family and marriage. The last and final topic this week is about divorce and remarriage. This is a topic that hits home for me because it is something my family has experienced the past 8 years. And while it has been some of the most difficult 8 years, there have been so many blessings and tender mercies from the Lord. I hope that there are some points that resonate with you as they have with me and that you learn something from this post.  Why do people get divorced? There are many varying answers to this question but I learned that ultimately it comes down to people having a lack of hope for the marriage working out. When people choose to get a divorce it is a divorce of many things. Legally it is often done through a court, emotionally people end the relationship, s...
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Active Parenting

 Hello and happy weekend! I hope you had a great week! Today is going to be about Michael Popkin's take on active parenting as well as what our job is as a parent and how we can help our children.  Parenting is a great responsibility. Our job is to protect and prepare a child to survive and thrive in the world that they are going to live in. As children are trying to learn and grow or become "little scientists" it is important to be PROACTIVE in that. Use that as opportunities to help them. It is important to know that children are imperfect just as we are. They have needs that need met and sometimes when it is not being met children have a mistaken approach and will manifest that in different ways. When this occurs, the parents' response to it is so important to getting them back on track. I'd like to share some of the examples we learned about with the child/teen's need, the child's mistake approach, and how the parent might respond.  Child's/Teen...
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Finances, Following God's Will, and Finding Opportunities

Hello! To start off I want to talk about  following God's will . There is a quote that I really love from Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf in his talk called "Fourth Floor, Last Door." He says,  " We cannot force God to comply with our desires—no matter how right we think we are or how sincerely we pray. Consider the experience of Paul, who pleaded with the Lord multiple times for relief from a personal trial—what he called “a thorn in the flesh.” But that was not God’s will. Eventually, Paul realized that his trial was a blessing, and he thanked God for not answering his prayers the way he had hoped. 6 No, the purpose of faith is not to  change  God’s will but to empower us to  act on  God’s will. Faith is trust—trust that God sees what we cannot and that He knows what we do not. 7  Sometimes, trusting our own vision and judgment is not enough ."   There have been times where I feel like I know what path I should be taking and that things will l...
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The Importance of Communication

 Welcome to another post! Today is going to be about the importance of communication and David D. Burns "5 secrets of effective communication."  Communication is a vital part of everyday life because we use it all the time. Whether it is for work, school, and especially in our relationships with family and friends, it is important to learn to be a good and effective communicator. Without good communication, there is room for a lot of misunderstandings and often times causes problems that could have been resolved through talking and communicating about it. I want to walk through David D. Burns 5 secrets of effective communication and explain his techniques. 1. Disarming technique- This is where we need to find the " kernel of truth" in others' argument, which means finding truth in what they are saying. Sometimes when we are being defensive, it often looks more like an offensive stance. When we set down our defenses, we are able to disarm them by disarming ourse...
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Truth and Stress

 Welcome back to another blog post! This week is going be prioritizing truth and entertaining true thoughts and also about stress within the family. I hope that there is something that is a helpful takeaway for you and that you are able to learn something about the things I studied and learned about this week!  To start off, I want to talk about our brains and a little bit about how they work. In our frontal lobes, that is where we use intellect, logic, and problem-solving. Our limbic system is more emotionally oriented, and it is where our "autopilot" mode resides. As we go down, our brain stem is what handles metabolic responses such as heart rate, breathing, blood pressure etc. Why is this relevant? Well, when we sense a perception of danger, our limbic system is what takes over. We turn to autopilot and tend to think more emotionally. Anxiety and depression are two things that we hear a lot about today and are very common now. Anxiety is actually a natural, normal, and ev...
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Intimacy in Marriage

 Hello and happy weekend! I hope you had a great week! Well to preface, this post is going to be about marital intimacy... yes, I know this tends to be a taboo topic and can be a very awkward one. And while I want to make it very clear, I have no experience with this at all, there were some good things I learned this week and hope will be enlightening in some way.  To start off I want to talk about the importance and sacredness of sexual relations and intimacy in marriage. While many consider it a taboo topic to avoid at all costs, this is a topic that should be considered SACRED not SECRET. Sexual relations and intimacy are a part of life, but it is important that it be treated with sacredness and is done within the bonds of matrimony. While this is a topic that most people avoid at all costs and find discomfort with, it is a very important conversation during the engagement period and also a talk that parents should be having with the children, at an appropriate age. I know ...
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Dating & Selecting a Partner

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This week is about dating! This is a topic I have been very passionate about because there has been such a huge shift in the way dating used to be and how people used to actual go on dates. I have had a lot of conversations with parents, church leaders, and friends about the dating culture in our time. It seems like there is not any importance of dating and it is now replaced with just "hanging out." I want you to think, when was the last time you went on a date or asked someone on a date? I won't give my specific answer, but for me, it's been a while!  If you take a look at young adults and college campuses, you will find that the amount of dating that goes on has diminished significantly over the years. Girls are not being asked on dates and people spend most time now hanging out in group settings and considering that to be "dating." But in actuality, that is not dating. According to President Dallin H. Oaks, a date includes 3 p's: planned ahead , paid...
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